Programs
Our brains put us on autopilot to conserve energy. When you drove to work this morning a good portion of that drive was run by a motor program in your mind. You were largely unaware yet you arrived safely like the day before. It doesn’t take long to develop programs.
If you feel stuck it’s likely self inflicted. If your body and routine are in a rut it will remain until you disrupt it. We naturally memorize so it’s important to audit the programs and make sure they are serving you. As humans we have the ability to observe ourselves but often forget the power of metacognition.
Running the emotional program that you “don’t have what it takes” works like a charm. It will look for confirmation and hardwire it.
You don’t need other people to ruin your day, you can do it yourself.