Compromise

Compromise is a key element that has kept me married for over 30 years. The problem is… it’s easy to screw it up.

Compromise can be inauthentic.

Lazy or dishonest compromise is a shortcut that can lead to contempt. If you have unmet needs and you don’t speak up you are sidestepping lasting change.

Conflict should be navigated not avoided. Over compromising is just giving in and keeping the peace. This will put you squarely in the passive aggressive zone. Surface harmony is wimpy and creates ultimate disconnection.

Artificial peace will drive a wedge into your relationship and make you miserable. Hire a therapist so you don’t make it worse. Address the issues head on and stop being dishonest.